How the Idea and the Reality Aren’t What We Expect

Relationships take a lot of work, and when people go into them, I think they all want the Hallmark relationship, where there are no arguments and neither of the pair want alone time and always want to be together. The idea, to me, of a relationship is something that is supposed to be effortless and I want exactly what the Hallmark model idealizes. But the reality of the story is, life doesn’t work that way and you can bet your life on the fact that relationships are like a two-way street, where if only one side is used, it wears only one side out, while the other remains untouched, unbroken.



The idea, after all, is this perfect example of what we all want. But in real life, there’s no such luck. The word perfect borders a fairy tale, where everybody gets a happy ending.

In the same way, Frankenstein likes the idea of the monster he creates, even obsessing over every minor detail for over two years on trying to make his monster “perfect.” When he finally brings his monster to life, Frankenstein isn’t ready for a relationship with his creation. He is terrified, mortified by what he thought was perfect. He runs away. He gives up. He made what could have been an ideal father-son relationship into a two-way street where the only road being worn down was the one taken by the monster.

A Haunting Decision

It is a part of human nature to second guess yourself, to doubt a decision that you make at any given time when presented with new information. However, doubt may result in our demise. 


Personally, I think the fear of failing and the doubt that creeps behind us constantly keeps many of us away from our dreams and goals and, consequently, our success. 

In the end, I think the moral of the story is to always believe in yourself, and don’t second guess yourself too much. Believing in yourself creates this confidence within yourself, especially when you actually take the chance and succeed. 

Believe in yourself, because if you don’t, don’t count on anyone else believing in you either. 

The Evolution of Complexity

Things are not just born complicated. Various factors play a role in how complexity grows, how it develops, and how it ultimately affects the people who must deal with the complex complexities. A basic example that everyone has experienced is life in its general self. 

Most children, at a young age, are innocent, carefree, with no true complexity in their feelings. Their emotions are easily readable, and their actions predictable. They live a stress-free life, one where everyone is friends with everyone and school was where you put together puzzles as a class and got to eat lunch with people other than your family. Unfortunately, this simple state of mind evaporates when we evolve into grade school and middle school. Everyone isn’t friends with everyone, three essays are due the next day, two tests must be passed to maintain a grade, relationships that involve something past the boundary of friendships begin, and the complex complexities begin. 



Even more unfortunately for us, things–though they may not necessarily get worse–get far more complicated during the later years. 8 PM bedtimes  wave their last goodbye as the hour hand ticks past the nine, the ten, the eleven, the twelve. Three essays are a piece of cake considering they are replaced with seven essays. Friendships that were so confusing and hard to maintain in middle school only get stickier here, where in a blink of an eye, a friend can become an enemy. 

Despite it all, complexity is not a bad thing. Yes, it makes things more stressful and makes kids shed a few more tears than they may want to, but these complex complexities also provide leeway for children to grow into adults, to take responsibility for themselves, and eventually their families. Complexity is a phenomenon of life, causing so much pain yet so much growth and wisdom and potential happiness.