How the Idea and the Reality Aren’t What We Expect

Relationships take a lot of work, and when people go into them, I think they all want the Hallmark relationship, where there are no arguments and neither of the pair want alone time and always want to be together. The idea, to me, of a relationship is something that is supposed to be effortless and I want exactly what the Hallmark model idealizes. But the reality of the story is, life doesn’t work that way and you can bet your life on the fact that relationships are like a two-way street, where if only one side is used, it wears only one side out, while the other remains untouched, unbroken.



The idea, after all, is this perfect example of what we all want. But in real life, there’s no such luck. The word perfect borders a fairy tale, where everybody gets a happy ending.

In the same way, Frankenstein likes the idea of the monster he creates, even obsessing over every minor detail for over two years on trying to make his monster “perfect.” When he finally brings his monster to life, Frankenstein isn’t ready for a relationship with his creation. He is terrified, mortified by what he thought was perfect. He runs away. He gives up. He made what could have been an ideal father-son relationship into a two-way street where the only road being worn down was the one taken by the monster.


A Haunting Decision

It is a part of human nature to second guess yourself, to doubt a decision that you make at any given time when presented with new information. However, doubt may result in our demise. 


Personally, I think the fear of failing and the doubt that creeps behind us constantly keeps many of us away from our dreams and goals and, consequently, our success. 

In the end, I think the moral of the story is to always believe in yourself, and don’t second guess yourself too much. Believing in yourself creates this confidence within yourself, especially when you actually take the chance and succeed. 

Believe in yourself, because if you don’t, don’t count on anyone else believing in you either.